Fat women and dating
It’s not a level playing field, and there’s no point pretending it is.
But having a larger body is not a deal-breaker — though it may seem so.
The internet is full of stories about women being horrifically fat-shamed or harassed on dating sites, and yes, those stories need to be told. And at a certain point, I think they can become inadvertent scare tactics, frightening plus-sized women out of the dating pool.
So, I reached out to Marie Southard Ospina, journalist, style blogger, and beloved bad-ass of the body positive movement.
I gained weight after I lost my husband, I was very sad and depressed and I guess I found comfort in food to help get over my grief.Man, they really drill in the message early with this nonsense: Maybe that’s why dating as an adult so often feels like a class we’re flunking. With rare exception, dating is considered a pain in the ass, but a necessary hurdle if you want to advance to the next romantic level.And when you’re plus-sized (or if your appearance doesn’t conform to mainstream beauty standards in other ways), dating can seem fraught with even more challenges.It’s a plus size dating quest not a string of sweaty one night stands. I was also aiming for a cross section of men so I didn’t go after the same ‘type’ of guy I always dated.I’d been running my own plus size blog, Big Curvy Love, for years so it was a no brainer to chronicle the 50 dates. Yes, in my mind this was a real-life-romantic comedy in the making and I was for sure was going to have a legit ‘meet cute’ just like in the movies. How about a silver fox, toy boy, divorcee, single dad, white collar, blue collar, different cultures, ethnicity and religions.