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Even though I specifically told them my daughter is not allowed at my grandfather’s house, my mother took her to see him.After that, I called my mother “a piece of crap,” and I haven’t spoken to her since. They all are acting absolutely arse-backward and are totally unfair.I drive myself crazy thinking about all of this, but I bite my tongue. Dear Distressed: Keep this idea in mind: Whenever you attempt to coach your daughter away from this man, what she hears is, “You’re so incapable of making good choices that you require my constant worry, omnipotent help, and guidance.” The harder you push her to leave, the more she will try to prove you wrong by staying.If you stop trying to fix her, she may stop trying to fix him. One of his sisters is six months younger than me, and we have always gotten along. She freaks out if any of us don’t drop everything to help her. My fiance and I have helped her countless times, whether it be with her car, or her two sons, who are 1 and 2.He is on probation and cannot drive, so my daughter now often drives him.I’m quite sure she feels deep compassion and a desire to rescue him. I have talked to her about my thoughts and feelings, pointed out the obvious difficulties and heartache being in a relationship with an alcoholic.It isn’t until you completely detach that she will fully come into her own. I want to reconcile with her, but she won’t apologize to anyone, and thinks she has done nothing wrong.
Several months ago, my daughter went to stay with my parents for a couple of days.Dear Amy: My daughter has been seriously dating a young man for about the last six years. He is an immigrant/refugee from a war-torn country and has struggled with serious psychological issues relating to his childhood experiences.He recently totaled his car and got a DUI, confirming that he is an alcoholic.I believe he is a good person with a good heart — and lots of problems. She asks me to let her heal from this, and she continues to date him. I want to tell my daughter she is dragging around a ball and chain, enabling him, making the biggest mistake of her life, wasting her time, seemingly changing who she is in order to “help” him cope.My daughter has a college degree, a good job, lots of talent and potential. I have been to Al-Anon, and I hired a life coach to help me devise strategies on how to “allow” all of my adult children to be adults. I think about the many other successful guys out there who could be so much fun for my daughter to be with.